Reddit is a great place for viral content, from cat videos to funny memes to incredible drawings, if it’s gone viral there’s a good chance it’s from Reddit!
Sometimes, however, Reddit comes to the rescue in ways other than lighthearted content.
Here is one of those beautiful, inspiring, stories.
Posting with the title “There is a trans girl [17 F] in my [17 M] school that I can’t get out of my mind. I have a massive crush on her but I’m also afraid of social suicide if I ask her out”, the teen said:
Ladies and Gentlemen of Reddit, I can’t even begin to explain how absolutely and painfully beautiful this girl is. She totally makes me feel lovesick. If I were a cartoon my eyes would turn to hearts and leap from their sockets whenever I see her. She makes me feel weak in the knees… the butterflies in my belly are aggressive and many… I could write poetry about this woman.
Unfortunately the majority of people don’t see her like I do. She only started transitioning a year and a half ago. It’s a smaller community, so she’s been around ever since I started going to school. A lot of people refer to her as “he”. I’ve even heard a teacher or two mistakenly (or perhaps on purpose) call her by her prior name. She has a much more feminine name now.
Girls are more friendly with her, but a lot of guys, my friends included make a lot of rude and derogatory remarks about her. They talk about how she’ll never be a real woman and how they’d never touch someone like her.
She is so real to me though. No doubt about it. I’ve never felt this crazy about a girl before. We go to the same after school art club which is when I really started crushing on her. Her art, guys. HER ART. God. Please. Just ugh…
She’s so talented. It was portrait week and we got paired up. We did each others portraits and it was MAGICAL. It was like a Jack and Rose moment, except nobody was naked and neither of us died. She said she loved the picture of her I drew and she asked to keep it.
We have exchanged numbers and we text a lot. Just last night she asked to hang out sometime out of school. I’m currently home half dead from the flu, but when I’m better I really want to take her out. I want to do something extremely special. I want to ask if she wants a date.
However, I know the second word spreads we are hanging out or people see us together, or if we become a “thing” guys will be awful to me and I know my friends won’t get it. I don’t know if they’d disown me, but obviously I couldn’t be friends with people who make fun of my girl friend.
I haven’t talked to my parents. I don’t know how they’d feel about her. My older sister who just graduated high school last year says I should stay away from her because of all the drama she could cause. Plus my sister thinks I could become the target of bullies and people might even think I’m gay. This is definitely something I worry about.
My little brother (who is in middle school, so I don’t know how credible his advice is) says I should bring her flowers to school on valentines day because he bets no other guy has given her flowers before. I think this is amazing. I’d definitely like being the first guy to ever give her flowers, but it’s also a very public and romantic gesture. There is no second guessing the nature of it. She also deserves flowers on valentines day. I want to make her smile.
This has turned novella length. I should quit rambling. I could ramble about her for DAYS. Believe me.
What do I do? I think I know what to do. I mean, I know what I WANT to do. I want to make her feel special. I want to be her boyfriend. I’m just terrified of the social repercussions and I’m a little terrified of what my parents might think too. Maybe they won’t care. Maybe nobody would care. That’s highly unrealistic.
What would you guys do in my shoes? What’s the smart move?
tl;dr: Do I ask her out even though people wouldn’t really get it? I don’t want everybody to hate me. But I really want her to like me.
The replies included respect for the poster’s little brother’s innocence.
Other’s played devils advocate, pointing out the risk/reward!
OP’s innocence is awe-inspiring.
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